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It was just another day, she got up, logged into her Facebook
account, there was a request from this guy, she had a few mutual
friends as well, she accepted it a...
It was just another day, she got up, logged into her Facebook account, there was a request from this guy, she had a few mutual friends as well, she accepted it anyway and went on with her daily chores. A few hours later there was a message from him, as she read it, an element of surprise stunned her.
He knew a few of her details, her school, college, where she went for her classes and most surprisingly where she lived as well, it was shockingly impressive to see that he had done his homework right. They began talking, it was the first time someone gave her the sort of attention which triggered a billion butterflies in her stomach. They instantly developed this liking towards each other and before anybody could even guess, they were supposedly in love.
Love, an emotion like any other, demands to be felt, but it soon becomes a want, a need, an addiction. Is it only the chemicals and hormones that have the ability to produce such intensity in people, such passion, a level of fullness, a feeling of completeness? But there is an entirely different world of feelings that love has in store for the selected few, pain, sadness, depression, the anger, a certain level of impatience, frustration. All of these come as a package, there is not always a good side to love, the worst lies within.
The first few months seemed perfect, felt like nothing really could go wrong, and then began the trial, the journey of grief, a journey so painful that it will change the most basic things of her personality.
It began with basic fights, on small things, like he would just never have the money to spend, he would always ask her to do it, she never hesitated but it did prick. He changed, he would scream at her all the time, abuse her, accused her of cheating on him and it came to the level of blackmailing her. One fine day, he crossed all limits, abused her physically, she did not say a single word.
Why did she not say a single word? Well, because according to her when you love somebody, you give it your all, adjusting, tolerating, covering up for mistakes is all that is left. She did the same; she always reasoned with herself that it was fine for him to be this way because it was just love.
4 years, she had tolerated everything he had in store for her, everyday she assumed it had reached the highest limit but yeah! New limits were set frequently. Why do we choose to go through this process of deteriorating ourselves, why do we give anybody the authority to deal with us like this? Maybe the biggest addiction of a human being is another human; it is a feeling of utopia when you get a hug from the person you love, such satisfaction, and such safety in the arms of that one person. Sometimes its those few moments we crave for, those few minutes of calm and peace, but wait! It gets ruined pretty soon when you realize that it is not always love. Sometimes we are just used to imagining things which are not always true, we try giving ourselves explanations which we know are not true but just satisfies our curiosity and anxiety for a while.
People always told her she had the choice to leave and move on, but who could she explain it to, that it was hard to even explain to him the concept of a break. She knew that one day her saturation level will come and the day she realizes that he does not belong to her, she will leave and leave for good.
Then began her journey of positive change, a change she desired and every person who loved her, wanted it for her, she deserved way better but it was time for her to realize. She had to put her foot down and she did so one fine day, the moment she realized that her family and friends were there for her, she went for it, she told him to leave and never look back, he tried his best to stop her by hook or by crook, but she knew its time to let go, to let go of him, the pain, the questions, the frustrations. It was time to look at the future, to mend the damages, to start fresh, to look into deeper dimensions, to look at what she wants.
Love may never come back, may come back in the same form or a better one but at least now she knows that what has to be done, where she has to put her foot down, where she has to speak for herself. All of this taught her to be a better person, to fight for her and others; this made her tolerable and patient. All of us also feel the same or the sorts in some relationship or the other, but always know, you give people the authority to treat you the way they do, the ones which have to stick around will eventually do, wait till the time and people are right.