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This is one of the most common questions we see posed at
survivors and in other survivor communities. It should really come
as no surprise that survivors blame themselves; it seems that
This is one of the most common questions we see posed at survivors and in other survivor communities. It should really come as no surprise that survivors blame themselves; it seems that society only takes rape seriously when the victim was violently overtaken by a stranger jumping out of the bushes. For most of us, our rapists were wolves in sheeps clothing. They were our dates, our friends, our teachers, our cousins or fathers or mothers or husbands.
In the United States, only 40% of survivors report the crime. Of those, "a mere 7 percent go to trial, and only 1 percent of accused rapists are convicted."* When the courts arent placing responsibility where it belongs, it becomes even harder for society to see us as victims whose actions played no role in what happened. And, therefore, it becomes even harder for us as survivors to realize that we are not to blame.
For rape survivors, we often think, "Why did I get in the car with him?" "Why did I go to that party?" "Why did I get drunk?" This is risky business, this second-guessing of our actions. We can second-guess all day long, but the bottom line is that we would not have been raped had our rapist chosen to be respect us and our autonomy, to not commit a crime, to be a decent human being. The buck stops there.
So the question we are left with is :Whose choice is it to stop rape? the one getting raped or the rapist?